A Letter to my Sisters

Why do I want to lose weight? Is it because I am unhealthy, I am fat, I am ugly? No at all!

Is it because I want to look the right way to others… specifically boys? Maybe.

Does our entire world revolve around men? Yes, I think it might.

Sure. It’s our curse. Eve was cursed because of her sinful choice, but I don’t care if that’s our curse! Jesus freed us from that, so why the heck are all of us women walking around making everything about men?

Did he notice me? Does he think I am pretty? How many guys have you dated? Would he even be interested in me?

Why is this what we think about?

If my girlfriend is having a problem, it almost always has to do with a guy. Why do we waste so much of our time thinking about them?

I am not trying to say men are less or unimportant. They are incredibly important, they are Christ’s image bearers too and they are beautiful, wonderful creations.

Just… it hurts my heart that we worry about all these small things, like, am I dressed girly enough to get that guy to notice?

My mom was probably told to dress girly.. so she, of course told me to dress girly, but why?

Yes! Express your femininity. I love it! Dress up, put on make up, jewelry, feel like a princess, but don’t do it just to get a guy to notice.. do it because you feel like a princess, the daughter of the one true king!

I’m beginning to realize a lot of my jealousy towards girls has to do with men. She gets asked out more than me. She has more guy friends. She got married first. And so on. Now, we’re creating division between ourselves because of men? THAT MAKES NO SENSE!

I have value a part from man. Yup, that’s right. I may have come from Adam’s rib, but that doesn’t mean I need a man to be valuable… why is that?

Because I have no value a part from Christ! He gives me my value. A part form Him, I am nothing. So shouldn’t my world revolve around Him? So why is it about men?

I am so tired of my beautiful, strong, confident, Godly girl friends feeling less than, anxious, hurt, insecure, unwanted, angry, heartbroken because some guy did something or didn’t do something. I am not blaming the men (though sometimes they do terrible things and so do women). I am blaming sin and I’m blaming us women, maybe even this society!

How many tv shows or movies are out there that have to do with just women? Or a woman who’s life does not revolve around a man?  – Not many.

But, it’s truly up to us. I still like men, I still desire their attention, want their friendship, value who they are, and want to get married to one someday, but I don’t want my life to be all about them.

I want to walk into a room and not think, am I attractive? Or think, did he notice or care?

I want to walk into a room and do whatever the heck I was supposed to do in the first place without those thoughts about a guy.

Basically, the worries, insecurities, sometimes prideful thoughts are exhausting and worthless. Spend your time on better things, spend your thoughts on higher thoughts.

I want to be a single woman who loves other unconditionally, works hard at whatever I am doing, serves God with all her heart, and forgets about pleasing man (that includes women too) and someday, if God wills it, I want to be a married woman who loves unconditionally, serves God with all her heart, and forgets about pleasing man (including women).

And I pray this for all my female friends and male friends too. Let us live free, free from allowing our lives to be burdened with striving to be liked by humans. Jesus gave us that freedom. Let’s not take it for granted!